Jealousy a.k.a Cemburu

Tergerak hati nak tahu apa itu perasaan cemburu. Jadi, aku merajinkan diri online, scroll sana, scroll sini, search ke sana ke mari. Bukan apa, aku dah lama sedar aku ni seorang yang mudah sangat rasa cemburu. Buruk betul la aku ni. Adoii...jadi, aku perlu tahu definisi cemburu, apa punca perasaan ni dan bagaimana nak atasi. P/S Aku post entry ni sebab nak sentiasa beringat. Cemburu ni kalau tak terkawal, diri sendiri yang susah. :) 

What is jealousy?

Jealousy is a second emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. 

(wikipedia)

Jealousy denotes a feeling of resentment that another has gained something that one more rightfully deserves. Jealousy also refers to anguish caused by fear of losing someone or something to a rival. 

(www.allaboutlifechallenges.org)

Why?

*As you may have gathered from the above explanations, jealousy can be unhealthy or healthy, depending on your motivation. Unhealthy jealousy stems from fear, insecurity, deception, or covetousness. When you feel yourself acting out in jealousy, you need to examine the reason why you feel jealous. 

The common experience of jealousy for many people may involve: 

• Fear of loss 
• Suspicion of or anger about a perceived betrayal 
• Low self-esteem and sadness over perceived loss 
• Uncertainty and loneliness 
• Fear of losing an important person to another 
• Distrust

How to overcome?

Jealousy is not all bad. A healthy jealousy needs to be developed in family relationships. This type of jealousy is a protective fight to maintain your relationships. Would you sit by while a person seduces your spouse or deceives your child? No, you would fight for them. You would do all you could to declare truth.

(2knowmyself.com)

Tip#1: Build your self-confidence: Building your self confidence, knowing about your points of strength and knowing for certain that you are worthy can be enough to eliminate any feelings of jealousy. 

Tip#2: Fix your mental and physical self image 

Tip#3: Deal with your feelings of insecurity 

Tip#4: Conquer your fears: dealing with your fears is one basic step that helps in dealing with jealousy 

Tip#5: Do some external changes: Even tough Jealousy comes from within sometimes you need to fix the external world along with fixing your inner-self. 

Tip #6: Assertiveness will help you on your way: Being assertive is the habit of communicating your feelings without being aggressive nor allowing your rights to be violated. 

Tip #7: Control your anger: 

*Baiklah, mari mulakan langkah! :)